Sunday, 21 September 2014

Stay with me...


                                                                     Source: Google
Hello there! I hope you are all doing really well this Sunday afternoon! 
Well, that was a bit weird intro but hey ho.

After browsing the internet for a little while, I came across this image and it inspired me to sit down and write a post. It's not very often that I see an image and I feel like writing but of course this was an exception. The reason being is because this sweet image quite literally sums up my year of 2011-2012. 

Let's be honest, long distanced relationships are a bit pants and it feels like there is no end to it. You plan your life 3-6 months ahead to make sure that you get a chance to those precious moments with your loved one. In my case, by the end of September 2012 I've travelled to Ukraine 13 times in the matter of 12 months. For some it might be a shock and an instant question of how could you afford it? Well, no I'm not rich, I was quite lucky in the fact that my parents have their own business here in the UK and they needed someone to travel to Kiev as a courier every month. I didn't get paid for it but I got free tickets to go home and see my husband! I'm sure most of you would agree that was more precious than money. Besides I had a part time job that paid my rent, bills and my social life. 

Flying is tiring, it's draining, I had headaches and nose bleeds on a regular basis. I guess, the lesson that I've learnt from all this is that I will never be an air hostess! So if you are an air host/air hostess and you're reading this, please know that I respect you a LOT and so should everyone else! That doesn't mean that I ever disrespected this profession, I guess I just didn't realise how physically demanding it is as at some point I had a serious thought becoming one.

So, with no further do I decided to come up with few tips on how to overcome a long distanced relationship based completely and utterly on my own experience therefore it might differ from your own one as we are all special in our own little ways. Nonetheless, I hope you find some of it helpful.

1. You're not alone! Just think about your other half all these miles away who wants you to be near just as much as you do. Moral support is everything. You need to be supportive and caring both ways. If you see that you're lovely is upset today then try to think of a way to cheer them up. I know it's not easy trust me! But somehow it is possible if you know that person well. I used to remind ourselves of certain funny moments that we experienced together and it usually did the trick.

2. Skype?! Now, I know we live in the century of the internet, skype and other cool 'stuff' that makes long distance seem a little bit less stressful. However, nothing beats an old fashioned letter that went through hell (slight exaggeration I know) in order to be put in your letter box. For some reason it feels so much more special than an -email or a skype call. Don't get me wrong, of course we used to skype and e-mail each other but with time I started hating the word skype as I wanted him to be with me right here, right now, not on the screen of my lap top. When I used to send him letters I would put my favourite lipstick on and quite literally kiss the letter, sometimes I would go even further and spray the letter with my perfume. A bit too much? No I don't think so :) 

3. Surprise. This is probably one of the most hardest things to do in a long distanced relationship however it's important not to forget about it. Just think about it.... how special is it to open your bag and see a bright envelope with hearts in the airport full of strangers? How nice do you think it is to receive a creative video made by your other half? Yep, I thought so, of course it's all things special and it would instantly cheer you up. Just think of the right words to say in the surprise letter, the words that will inspire you both to be strong, cheerful and thankful for each other and wait until the day you will finally be re-united for good. Stay positive!

Precious moments together.

Flowers...:)

A lot of selfies were taken :D 

Hanging out with our friends in a village :)

My favourite part of my trips to Ukraine was to be re-united:)

After grilling 12 months he finally got the visa to come to the UK!!!
Woohhoo!! 
If you're going through something like this at this moment in time then I really hope it gave you some positive things to think about and don't forget : Stay strong and be positive!

Jane xxx



Monday, 8 September 2014

3 years ago...



3 years ago I officially became one of the most happiest woman on planet earth. I was only 21 years of age and please let's not jump into conclusions that it was an arranged marriage. The reason I say this is because a few of my so called 'friends' have turned their backs on me after they found out that I got married. I suppose the difference between Ukrainian and English population in terms of marriages and having babies is that here in the UK people tend to leave it until they're in their 30's and there is nothing wrong with that whereas in Ukraine getting married at the age of 18- 25 is quite normal. Although saying this, I really don't want to give the wrong idea. All I want to say is that people in Ukraine tend to find the right one more quickly than in the UK :) Of course it's not a serious point that I am trying to make but I hope it made you smile or raise your eyebrow:) Either way, please don't take this point too seriously.

 It's true what they say, there is no age for true love and it can happen with anyone at no given time.  However, this post is not going to be where I talk about how happy I am and how everything fell into place and how blessed I feel but I'll be honest and say that I am not happy all day every day but I have to say it's mostly out of the simple everyday things that with time became a routine and sometimes I get tired of it. It's life and things are not always the way you want them to be and that's OK. Sharing your life with someone who became your family because of one reason and one reason only - love, well this might be one of the most amazing things on this planet. So fall in love, break hearts, let your heart be broken because that's the reality, it's unfortunately inevitable. When the day comes, you will then understand why you had to go through the rough road of dating frogs and assholes. Excuse my language :D


He stole my heart, he stole me:)
See you soon my friends :) I wish you all the love and happiness that you deserve :)

Jane xxx